For as long as moms have stayed home with their children, it’s been argued that we have the hardest job in the world. But do stay at home moms work harder than their working partners? We are simultaneously doctors, chefs, housekeepers, financial advisors, chauffeurs, boo-boo kissers, diaper changers, home decorators, personal stylists, personal assistants, family managers, referees, teachers, and much more.
We have to make sure the kids eat, are bathed, and brush their teeth. We get to read bedtime stories, be there for each milestone and mistake. We snuggle them when they are sweet and have doors slammed in our face when they’re not.
As stay at home moms, we work 24/7/365. We don’t often get a break. We don’t get to clock out at the end of the day. While others go home after work, our home is our work. We don’t earn a paycheck and we don’t have a 401(k). But most of us find great satisfaction in this, even when it’s overwhelming, frustrating, and exhausting.
Lately, we’ve given stay at home moms a lot of (well-deserved) credit for all the hard work they do. But I think in doing so, we’ve forgotten how much our working partners do too. They deserve appreciation for the ways they enrich our lives and the lives of our children and for the sacrifices they make in order for us to be the stay at home moms we want to be.
They sacrifice a lot.
We may not often think of how much our partners truly sacrifice in order to work outside of the home. All the reasons we love being a stay at home mom are all the very same things that make working outside the home hard sometimes.
Working partners miss out on so much in our little loves’ lives. As a stay at home mom, I get to see every first, from their first smile to their first step, while my hubby is working hard away from home to provide financial stability for our family. I’m the one who typically takes them to the doctor, gets to participate in all the things they do and be their first best friend.
My two boys often come to me first when they are upset or need something. Not because they love their daddy any less or because he’s done anything wrong, but simply because they are with me a majority of the time and that’s their habit.
I get to enjoy all the snuggles and kiss away their boo-boos. They want me to tuck them into bed at night. And I get to be the one who cheers for every big and little accomplishment they make.
Our partners miss all of this. And as much as we would love to have a break from it all sometimes, they would love to be there for it all.
They don’t really get a break either.
I’m just as guilty as the next person of complaining about never having a break. It’s true that we are at our “job” literally constantly. And that can be extremely taxing at times. But I was reminded recently that working parents don’t get off as easily as we might feel occasionally.
They truly do appreciate everything we do.
Our partners really do see how hard we work and they appreciate us for it, even if they never say so.
I’ve been reminded more than once (usually when the kids are acting out) that my hubby thinks I’m a saint. Ha!
When they come home exhausted and stressed and a little cranky, cut them a little slack. Yes our day was difficult, but theirs may have been, too.
They see everything we do and they respect us for it. Your partner knows how truly valuable you are and they love you.
As my hubby says, “I have nothing but respect for parents in that role and believe that they deserve a medal!”
Stay at home moms deserve every bit of the praise lavished on them. We do work really hard to provide our children with the best lives we can. But I think it’s equally important to also offer all due appreciation and respect for the working parents in our lives who go above and beyond and sacrifice so much to provide for our families in ways we can’t provide as stay at home moms. Our working partners are amazing and that deserves to be recognized, too!